Being in relationship with another provides us with immense opportunities for self-awareness and growth. Every person who enters into a new relationship brings his or her own expectations, values, and individual styles of both communicating and resolving conflict. Couples counseling can allow partners to recognize patterns, gain a better understanding of one another, interact more compassionately, and form deeper connections.
Great relationships require time, energy, and commitment. While many couples can identify their difficult issues, they are often unable to resolve them. And despite their best intentions, they continue to repeat the same patterns that lead to disconnection, frustration, and pain.
Therapy can provide a safe, nurturing place to air your grievances, communicate with structure and clarity, problem solve, learn new skills, be vulnerable, and repair old wounds. I draw from my experience using psychodynamic, attachment theory and attachment styles, and imago approaches, and emotionally focused therapy in helping couples.
As a result of our work together, you may:
- Discover the negative patterns in your relationship and how to stop them
- Become accountable for your own behavior
- Acknowledge your own vulnerability
- View your interactions from your partner’s perspective
- Restore intimacy and regain trust
- Take your walls down and focusing on essential issues
- Break free of obstacles and shift unconscious patterns
- Nurture your communication skills
- Learn to fight fair, reduce conflict, and increase the ability to address issues
- Accept each other’s limitations
- Communicate constructively with empathy and self-responsibility
- Forgive and reconnect with one another
- Work together as a team to nurture your relationship
- Support each other in your individual dreams and life path
- Create a vision of the relationship you want to have together
And while the goal many times in couples therapy is to help the couple stay together, in some cases, couples therapy helps couples to separate in a way that honors their relationship and minimizes harm.
Ultimately, I believe that relationships are vital to our understanding of the world around us; it is a key factor in how we make meaning out of our experience. This may be a relationship with another person or several people, or your most important relationship: the one that you have with yourself.
I work with all types of relationships, including LGBTQ, in an open, direct, loving, and compassionate manner. To learn more about Inner Balance Counseling or schedule your first counseling session, please visit my contact page.
“The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed.” – Carl Jung